My relationship with kink began in 2019 when I was fresh out of a 7-year vanilla marriage and figuring out what I wanted my love life to look like. I had never dabbled in the kink lifestyle but was intrigued by it. As I started to pursue my interests I quickly became overwhelmed with the sheer amount acronyms, kinks, subkinks, toys… where does one start on this journey?

I was lucky to find friends in the community who helped guide me through safe exploration and responsible play. By no means am I now an expert, but I feel competent enough to help guide others in their introduction to new kinks and fetishes.

My mission is to help foster positive and healthy relationships not only between Doms and subs, masters and slaves, etc. but to help individual kinksters create healthy relationships with the BDSM lifestyle itself.

My partner and I have been in an official D/s dynamic since 2020, practicing safe and consensual BDSM that I’m convinced has created the solid foundation for our sex life as well as our everyday relationship outside the bedroom.

Together we create ideas for cards, digital designs, handmade products and downloadable kink contracts. In the longterm, we are creating a desktop application tentatively called subSPACE that will be a community-based journaling space for submissive kinksters of all genders and sexualities to share their experiences.